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Friday 30 March 2012

The Sound of Silence ...

Now anyone who knows me will testify that I can talk for Great Britain! LOL. I am also a 'debater' and love nothing more than a great friendly discussion with topics as wide-ranging as politics, religion, philiosophy, football and a numerous and one other things. Mention a topic and I can probably chip in a little. While I am extremely passionate and will hold my ground, I also hate it when discussions become unfriendly or hurt anyone. At that point, I think it's time to stop talking and begin joking - no discussion is worth hurt feelings or a friendship or an argument with a loved one.

So it often surprises people when they learn that what I love the most about being home is the luxury of being quiet. If you ever spend a few days with me, you'll find out I am more likely to be curled up with a great book or writing than I am to want to spend a great deal of time talking. Oh, I'll talk and laugh alright but I always say the more comfortable I am with you, the less I feel the need to talk.

The price for being a bit of a chatter-box is folks keep asking if there's something wrong when I am quiet. Or wonder why I might want a couple of days occasionally to retreat into time with GOD, with myself, with good books, with long walks or when I can psyche myself into it, the sheer freedom that running gives (despite the awful pain that goes hand-in-hand with that torture!! LOL)

Human beings are social animals but most of us also need some space to ourselves .. we need time to spend in our own head-space. I will often go for a drive heading nowhere simply to be alone with my thoughts - music blasting and driving a lil fast down an open stretch of road is one of my greatest mee-time - I pray, I think, I sing loudly along with the music, I've even been known to cry if something is upsetting me .. The important thing is I have total freedom to embrace alone mee-time.

I also write the best in the cool dark still silence of the night. No lights on, maybe a couple of scented candles flickering in the background, I yield as the blank screen of my laptop beckons me, draws me in, pulls words out of me - all distractions banished - no TV or music or any background noise disturbing the flow of thoughts that seek to rush to the fore. The union of of the pale white background of the computer and the flowing black font of my thoughts creating the symbiosis that is my writing.

My ideal evening at home would be curled up on the sofa, loved guy near-by or next to me, feet in his lap or head on his shoulder, reading while he watches TV, reads or listens to music, maybe watching a lil TV too, making a comment now and again, talking a lil when it matters, laughing and joking .. two souls connecting without needing to clutter it up with loads of chatter ...

For moi, that is the perfect sound of silence...

xx

2 comments:

Ejiro Okagbare said...

I have to have "alone" time. If I start to feel very stressed. I like to just chill, read. write, create and navel gaze. I love being with people too though. I guess I'm an introverted-extrovert.

Noir said...

Sweetie!! Alone time mega vital from time to time ... & I thought I was the only one who considered myself an introverted-extrovert .. yahhhhhyyyyy!!! xx